When You Are A Woman and Over The Hill... or Ill! You are not "attractive anymore"

Even though "here" is a good day... we are HAVING RAIN!!!!! and a good deal of it... we need it desperately... "I" am NOT having a good day at all... I feel "left out", and just everything is depressing to me... I feel like no one even "sees" me anymore. I guess that sounds a bit, ah, what is the word I am looking for... words seem to be difficult for me now days... I don't want to sound like I am "feeling" sorry for "me" or I am not wanting anyone else to feel sorry for me either. I just feel "left out" of life these days. Just when I thought things were maybe getting a bit better and maybe a little bit brighter here in my own personal space, I am hit with all kinds of doubts... I doubt my husband "wants" me anymore... I feel he will soon "move on" in his life... whatever that may be... and I am still to be "stuck" here in my own chronic illness and "less of a life" than I ever imagined just a few years ago... As he feels better, I feel worse... I am NOT who he married anymore... and if he left today, I wouldn't blame him... I am a boring, old, not very exciting person anymore... I just don't feel worth much these days to anyone....
I can't do this right now... I'll finish it later...

Okay, onto trying to explain my comment that began this earlier today. I have just gotten to this spot that I do not understand how some people can go through life, and even the most difficult things that are in life for them, seem to be "easy" for them to get through. I say this now because I will use "men" in general..... Actually my husband to be blunt. There have been some event over the past few months, that I just knew he would have a very hard time dealing with. I felt "we" would be in for the long haul of getting over some of it, but we would, as always. Yet, here he is, seeming like he is doing just fine with all of it. He is going to a meeting every night, making friends, etc... playing his guitar, writing songs, and "doing" what he wants to more in life... which don't get me wrong I am happy that he is finally doing some of that. BUT, for women it is totally different. Whether it is just about cooking a meal, getting dressed up to go somewhere nice, buying groceries, and having all of the lists, the coupons etc in order, or whether we are ill, have horrible symptoms, and must go to twenty doctors to still not know a damned thing, I can guarantee men in general always come out SMELLING LIKE A DAMNED ROSE! They never "deal" with crap the way we do as women. We have all of the "chronic illnesses and pain" for the most part, now I know men do also, so I am not talking about you guys, but then if they go to the store, they just go, they don't worry about a list, coupons, or if they pay bills, they paid them, they do not check for emails saying they are paid, they don't do all of the "paperwork" involved, not like we do. We want to make sure things are done correctly, and not that men don't, they want them done right, but they do not WORRY over it! If there is something for dinner, whatever, if not they will find something. For women, if we do not have a "dinner" plan we feel guilty, even if we are sick, been busy all day, have had a bad day, we feel it is out "duty" our "job" to make sure they are fed properly... and that the house is clean as it should be and that they have clean underwear and clothes.. And we are the ones that take down curtains and launder them. We make sure the floors are mopped, the toliet is scrubbed, the shower doors are squeaky clean... and come to being sick... men seem to fly through that. Tests?? Okay have them done... no worries, Probably nothing, and they do not worry about it... usually they come home, with a quick script, and are up on their feet in a day or two. Women??? Hell no, we go through months of tests, blood work, every doctor in the county, hell in the state, and yet we are STILL SICK... WE ARE DEPRESSED, WE GET FAT... guys don't worry about "fat"... if they want to lose 10 pounds they just eat salads for a week, or cut back for a few days and voila' weight gone! Not us, it takes 6 months to be able to get off 3 extra pounds, that we ate fat free yogurt and still gained! Everything seems to come easy... You know if what happened lately at my house, had been the "shoe" on the other foot... I truly believe right now I would be hated, not trusted, and I think he may have left me... there would have been no excuses, no apologies, nothing... and even if I had "shown" changes, I think he would not have stayed around... now I am NOT saying THIS IS WHAT HE WOULD HAVE DONE FOR SURE!!! But, this is HOW I FEEL about all of it. Men can run over and get a tattoo, get drunk, borrow money and no body questions their actions, but allow a woman to go out and do anything the least bit "shady" and we are forevermore cured as being horrible, dirty, disgusting, and unforgiven... now I understand the term
"The Unforgiven"... yet we usually "forgive" them... they say I am sorry, 1 time, 5 times, whatever, and we "forgive" and guess what we usually "forget" also... yet you think our men forgive and forget?? I can bet they never "forget".... that is my feelings about it all... I feel right now like I am totally "left out" of life... of our lives together, I feel abandoned, and like I don't "fit in" his life anymore. I feel disgusted even looking at myself in the mirror, so I am sure I must disgust him, when he looks at me... he now has "new friends" and new things suddenly to do... what do I do? The same shit I have done for years... SIT ON MY ASS, WATCH TV AND KEEP THE DOGS COMPANY!!! I am just in a spiral that I hate, WHY CAN'T I GET WELL LIKE HIM? WHY CAN'T I HAVE FRIENDS AND A PLACE TO GO??? WHY!!!??? I WISHED I freaking knew the answers... he is sick of me... I feel it... even though he does not say it, I can feel it....

The World Has Lost IT Totally!

I am so dumbfounded by once again the rampant violence that rages through our nation that I almost turned off the news this evening. Another, yes, ANOTHER MASS SHOOTING! Right here on our own "home" land, by one of our OWN! One that is supposed to be "protecting" us, not KILLING US!!! As they "named" off just how many of these types of killings in our country there have been just in the past couple of years, it made me nauseous. How can we sit by and just not even care anymore? We have to have just become completely complacent in our own feelings and emotions for human life or we would be raising hell to strong enough to get the guns laws changed and changed for the better! Ridding us of weapons in those hands that do not belong. No automatic weapons at all. Now I know exactly what the "gun lovers" of this world are thinking. He had a"right" to have a gun. He was in the "Army Reserves"...OH NO he did not! He was NOT on a battle field. HE was No place that a gun even needed to be. In the first place, how can someone that has shown a state of anger management issues in his past, along with a couple of incidents with guns get a gun in his hands in the Army Reserves at all? Or for his personal use? If the job of thorough and proper background checks were in place and used, plus put in a data base where ALL could check, this man would have never been even allowed in the Reserves! It is evident he has past issues that show he should not be in any situation that he could come into a violent issue. He did not have the reasoning to be able to handle a situation such as that. Yet, there he was, not only spent years right here in Ft. Worth TX working in the Air Force Base with the reserves, and then all of a sudden he is in Washington D.C. within a place that most would consider one of the most secure spots as far as people and checks, plus checks, plus more checks to get into your job each day. Yet, just like the others, somehow he was able to get by those check spots with a gun or guns and use them to kill a DOZEN, another dozen innocent lives have been lost needlessly, senselessly, for nothing. This shall effect lives, and more lives forever. This shall effect spouses, children, grand children, friends... the rest of their lives... and over nothing. Because he was upset over a job? Many of us lose jobs, many of us have been between work, or even out of work for months, perhaps a year or more now, yet we are not out murdering innocent people over it. We cannot put "blame" on one person usually when a job is lost now days. It is the entire society, it is our own financial world, globally and the GREED THAT EXISTS that is what is ruining our jobs. Those that just can't get enough... they want MORE AND WANT TO DO LESS TO GET IT! Those are the ones that are to be blamed for much of our situation.
Then on top of that, we hear again that Boulder CO and many small towns around it have continued to be literally obliterated by so much rushing water, many of the communities have not even been gotten to yet. Lots of people are somewhere out there, without anyone that has been able to look for them due to the constant rain and storms. Can we afford to sit around and wonder why? Well look around you... Mother Nature's "wrath" is because of our own making. We have constantly, put filth in our lands, air, and water. We have polluted with chemicals, poisons, pouring out things in our air that makes me wonder how any of us breathe. Our water so filthy that ours in my home town smells like bleach due to them trying to clean it up enough for us to drink it. Our animals full of "growth hormones", and our crops filled with all kinds of chemicals to make them grow more, produce quicker, same with with all of our animals... chickens that grow breasts 4 times the size of a "normal chicken" in a matter of weeks. Why? Because we have literally overfilled our world so full of people and then concrete, taking our precious land, and building all of the buildings so we do not have even a place to grow food, and produce proper animals to eat. It is nuts... it is insanity... All of it... I usually do not say much about "the End", about the "coming of our time"... about "getting our lives in order" because Someone is coming... and Coming soon... Whomever you call your own "HigherPower" look around you... at the greed, the lust, the anger, the lies, all of the hatred, the violence, and all of the crap we do to cause more and more catastrophic weather events... just count the ones this year already.... and all of us... better have our hearts and souls where they need to be because, my Own "HigherPower"... is coming. I know it as well as I know my own name... I feel it, I see it all around... He is coming soon... when, the day, the moment, none of us know that... but soon.....

"Running On Empty"

 Even this morning, before reading a post for the group I am with on FB, about "Running on Empty", my thoughts were already there. I "want" to do so much, yet there is only "so much" strength you can muster up to do the things you want to do. All of us, as I said below face the dilemma of not enough time, not enough hours in the day, and so forth, well or ill. Being ill, chronically ill, takes so much more of those precious hours, days, hell weeks away from you. Time already seems to go by too fast. I will find myself doing some thing, and within what seems like the blink of an eye, or within a breath's space, time has flown by, I am yet to be through with one thing, till it's time to do something else. This morning was a great example.. I am waiting, waiting, for it to get light enough to water my plants outside and walk. I have gotten used to being out there at 5:30am. Now the days are "shorter" so it does not get light now until after 6:30am, So I feel as if I am "running behind". I am out there in a rush to do the watering and my walking, then I know I need to be in the house, either feeding dogs, cleaning up their paper, making the bed, or like this morning, laundering the sheets because I ran out of energy and time yesterday. After doing one huge load of laundry, and a smaller load of my own hand washables, then making my monthly dash for the big bill of groceries at the market, I exhausted. I still needed to do those sheets, hang up the dry clothes, I have like 20 house plants outside that need to be repotted before time to bring them in. And they are huge, or some of them are. So, it will take a while to get all of them cleaned up and potted into a new larger pot. Just handling those after 2 or 3 with the soil being heavy, and cleaning them up, is a chore. Now that most of them are not "small" anymore they have turned into a major ordeal in themselves. But, before they come in, many of them really need to be in larger pots, or have new soil... or at the very least be cleaned up and ready for the winter inside. 
Then of all things, life is so incredibly busy, and time is so short, I almost forgot my husbands birthday! If it were not for my own calendar and reminders, I may have forgotten it all together.. There I go again, I have to have notes, for my notes, and a calendar, for the calendar, that goes along with the reminders. One must laugh about it, or I would find myself crying over it all the time. Crying never solved one thing. Yet, these last couple of months, I would love to cry, I just do not even have the time or energy for tears either. 
I can't even find time, if I wanted to, to write. I just knew I would really be pumped up by this time of the year, thinking about how quickly my "personal deadline" to have the book finished is coming up. Yet, honestly, I don't have a clue even how I really want to behind it. I have written, the first chapter no telling how many times. I begin, it sounds good, then all of a sudden I don't like it at all, and I quit. Let's just say at the rate I am going, I'll be lucky to have it completed by the first of 2015... if that. I know if I could just "find that first chapter, those first words, the first paragraph, something that will truly get me started I would probably get it written quickly. I have yet to find those words that I need in order for my "voice" to kick in. 
Just a few short weeks ago, I had almost decided NOT to write anymore. I think that is still the issue. I am "just not" there... I can't find the very essence of what I want to say. I maybe able to post in FB, or on my blog, as I am now. I just don't have the capacity brain wish, or the ability to find enough to say that all matches for an "entire book"... I have various "chapters" in my life, that can be FULL for sure. Yet, for me to have "enough" of a pattern, the "road" for the book, something that puts all of the chapters together, to hold them and have them make sense, I'm not sure of. 
Lately, my pattern of writing has changed so much. I don't write as I used to. That is not necessarily a bad thing. I am sure many of us "writers" find a different flow of words as our lives change. We never remain the same, as a river winding. Lives flow one way, and then they wind around a bend, only to almost flow in the opposite direction.
With chronic illness, you must be ready for a huge change at any moment. You maybe as well as can be. Within hours you could be as ill, as you ever been. Or you may spend years on one medication, for it to completely stop working, and you must get used to something different. Even different doctors, more tests, everything can change. I realize "life" in general is that way. We all face change over time. But, with chronic illness the pattern of life can often be a conflict that is very hard to understand. I feel that is why we often lose out in relationships, friends, family, jobs, even our own selves. Those huge changes, that often come without notice, can alter what we know is "life" forever. 
I continue to "hunt" for the right diagnosis.



Sunday early morning... seems as if time is continuing to fly by, and I feel as if I've missed doing so many things I want or need to do. I just finished writing something on a group I belong to about a "subject' I actually describe in some of my writing. It came from a famous song, (back in the 70's I think), titled "Running On Empty", by Jackson Browne. I am not sure they were exactly "famous". I believe they were more like one of those "one hit" wonders. There one album with that song on it was great. But, I am not sure I remember anything after it. The title, as well as the lyrics of that song remind me of life for many of us. Especially those with a chronic illness or chronic pain issues. Life is already busy continually as it is. Nothing anymore is simple, yet all seems complicated. Then we you add chronically being ill with something you know you must live with the rest of your life, things tend to seem even more "draining" than those that do not have to deal with sickness. When you are chronically ill, it is like the "spoon theory", that many of us know about. You only have so many "spoons" daily to give. You could call it anything, filled glasses of energy etc. And trying to muster up "more" takes enough energy when you are well, but you usually can. But, when you are "ill", and you deal with it already "emptying" you out in itself.. that drained, I can't take another step, or give another drop, or speak another word... that place of total emptiness... unless you can "fill it up" there is no way you will get through the next moment, the next day. So, you must find ways to not allow life to "drain" you to the place of empty. Just like a car, you have to have "fuel" to survive or you are just stuck in one spot, until that fuel is put back in. Plus you must learn to "budget" your life, whether it be physically, emotionally, or mentally, everything can be draining to the soul, and to your "aura". Whether it is a conversation with someone who seems to take all of your "energy", or being somewhere that burns up your emotional state, or making the mistake of doing too much at one time physically, all of it is a drain on the body and the soul. The part that is so bad, it how do we "budget" our time? How do we budget our emotional and mental state? That is the huge one. We maybe able to say okay I am or I am NOT doing, this, that or the other physically in a day, etc. When it comes to your emotional place and your mental place, you never know when that "drain" will come. You maybe in a spot where you are finally feeling "filled" and your glass maybe almost running over the brim for one moment, then something or someone comes along, a moment in time, and within the blink of an eye, all has been totally depleted from you. How do we "allocate" ourselves in all realms when we know there is only a certain amount of "our strength" left? We must make a decision at to what is most important. It is that draining conversation with someone, or baking a cake for the weekend? It is being online, and writing here, or emailing friends etc... or doing house work, or going out to the market? When can you find "time" for you? To me that is the "key" to it all. That key is not so easy to come by, and when you find it, it does not always fit in the door of your life so you can turn to either open or shut the depletion from your own self. Whether we turn the "hose" on of life full blast and lose ourselves quickly, like a weekend trip that takes days to recover from, or use a small trickle of ourselves through some simple housework, and a small bill of groceries from the local market. What empty's your glass? What consumes you? What makes you feel full again? All such great questions. Not always so easy to answer. So, rather than look for those answers, we find ourselves, "Running on Empty" all too often.
Thanks Clarissa for the "idea". I did not mean to take it from you at all. It just really hit me last night when I read it, so I wanted to elaborate here on my page too. I give you the credit though for bringing it to mind.

Flares... Flares... Flares... Do We Realize When The First Begin for Us?

I just read an article posted by a friend on the issues of an RA Flare. In general, when the word "flare" is mentioned, I think more on the lines of Lupus and a Lupus Flare. In fact, up until recently, I was kind of wondering why they call an "attack" of FM a "flare". I was thinking that FM, and CFS more came on and were "there" with you all the time. I was not really thinking of them as an illness that "waxes and wanes" as a flare does.
I have definitely got a grasp on a Lupus Flare. I am not sure if I have thought back after one gets so bad that I must go in for medication, how it first "began", how long it took to get bad enough to see my doctor and get medications, then how long it takes with meds to get over it and feel like yourself again.
The article talked about those first stages, of just feeling "off". You can't put your finger on it, but you just do not feel like yourself. You feel like you really don't want to exercise, all of a sudden, it seems like a monumental task. You feel twinges of pain off and on, then it becomes more of an ache in the joints and in the muscles also, In fact your body "aches" all over. I often with a Lupus flare, have what I call a "Lupus Migraine". NO amount of regular pain medication will get rid of it. The only thing that will is a strong dose of Solu-Medrol, and then the step down days of Prednisone. I have found that out over the years of suffering with these. It is totally different than my old regular Migraines were and are. Actually for some odd reason, I don't have my regular migraines as much anymore, not like I do the ones from a Lupus Flare. Yet, it does make sense because I have enough regular pain medication with the pain pump, that I think it takes care of the chronic migraine type of headaches. That is how I almost know for 100 percent sure, it is coming from the Lupus. Because pain meds won't touch it. But, if it were a regular migraine, then the prednisone probably would not do much to top it. So, they are definitely much different in nature. I then just develop more of a feeling of not any well being. I lose my energy to the point I just can't and don't feel like doing anything, not baking, not being on the computer, my stomach gets upset badly, I hurt all over, I can't sleep, I am "cranky", and get upset easily over every little thing. Anything as I said from taking a shower to making the bed is a monumental task. I just cannot muster up enough energy to "feel" like doing anything. I don't want to go out in public. I prefer not seeing anyone, or even talking to anyone... all of it a part of these illnesses and what they do to your body, your mind and your spirit. They just knock you on your ass, and you must be prepared to stay there, no matter what the time frame might be. You may feel this way only a few days, and then again you may feel this way for days, weeks, hell even months... nothing really "helps"... you must just try and deal with all of it, one moment at a time... one foot in front of the other, taking one task at a time, and finishing it before your bit of energy for that day is gone. I have been dealing with either a horrible flare, or flares... plus side effects from new medications and upping one of my medications... and believe me, I don't think I'll ever get better. Every morning I wake up thinking okay today I will feel better... only to be disappointed that all of those crappy feelings are still here. I wrote this below that goes with this on FB this morning, so I will post it for you also...

Below is my FB post that goes with the above information.....

The article was good. Actually kind of gave me a perspective of what I go through but i just don't think about it. Especially during the "initial start" of a flare. I think for me, and Anthony I think you are the same, and many of us, we have "dual" or more illnesses. I have RA, and Lupus, and Sjogren's, Raynaud's .... and so forth. Now I have developed the other symptoms that go along with MS. I have not even went to try and really get it diagnosed, because honestly I am not sure for one it will do any good. For the 2nd, I am really not sure who to go to. I realize that Neurologist's usually deal with MS, even though it is an AI illness. And Dr. Q. already kind of was in "agreement" with me, that it did sound like it was a good possibility that I have MS on top of everything else. In fact, when he told me he was not actually as "up" on MS, and a Neurologist, maybe better, I was kind of shocked. I felt like since it is an AI illness he would have some answers for me. Yet, he is really more leaning to be an expert in RA. In fact we rarely even discuss the Lupus, etc. My regular MD has always taken care of the Lupus flares, etc... and I go see the Rheumy for the RA. Of course many of the treatments are the same for all of them, thus I am on what I need for Lupus and RA. But, recently I wonder if I don't need more for the MS if I do actually have it, I am having massive issues, with weakness in my arms and legs. They feel like they weigh a hundred pounds each. Even when I first get up, I have a hard time sitting here trying to type. Also, with that, I have seemingly more "brain fog".. almost a bit different from the Lupus side of it. And this business about constantly dropping things, tripping, almost falling, is nuts. I have been doing that now for about 4 months or so. When I think back about "symptoms"... I had thought well I don't have any "bladder" issues. But, YES, I DID... I already had Bladder repair surgery... that we felt like I did not need, after I went through it. That specialist should have tried medication BEFORE putting me through the horrible surgery! That was the worst I have ever had I think. The recovery from bladder surgery is awful and it takes weeks and weeks, or more like months and months. Then, even after I had "gotten well", it really felt like it was all for nothing. I still had some of the same problems I had before the surgery! It took over a year for me to finally "see" a bit of difference. Then that surgery left me with some other side effects that suck. I always said if someone asked me about bladder repair surgery, I would say HELL NO! NOT until you have 2 different opinions and have tried everything else... there are several medications first, and I would have several opinions and do lots of research if I had to do it again. I was not thinking when I had it done. I just "took that doctors word" and went along, rather than really questioning it, and making sure it was the right thing for me first. What really was bad, AFTER THE SURGERY, and I was still having issues, THEN he wanted to try MEDICATION!!! What the hell??? I just was so mad at myself, for not doing the usual, and "listening" to my own body and mind. I decided after that unless I really have more than one opinion and I have researched and asked plenty of questions, and found out all I need to, I won't have anything like that done again... Anyway this article does kind of allow you to look "down" on yourself before the "flare" really gets bad and see what happens in the beginning...  I will give you the URL where this article is. They have some good information there about different realms of RA, and other AI illnesses, along with FM...

http://www.roadback.org/index.cfm/fuseaction/studies.display/display_id/90.html

Maybe this will also help you to gain perspective on how a flare begins for you...

 

Fixing The World??!!

I can't believe it is Friday! This has been another one of those mess up weeks for me. Between going for the infusion, and feeling like I lost a day there, then everything else going on, plus feeling like hell physically, I just do not know where the time goes any longer. It seems each day passes by faster than the last. I know I get to where I wished I would not even listen to the news anymore. I rarely read much of it in the mornings now. It is so terribly upsetting to see all of the hateful, greedy, wrathful, rumors of war, people harming their own people, Mother Nature's destruction one after the other, and our leaders have NO CLUE how to handle what they need to do in order to put this country back together again!, that it just makes me sick to my stomach to see or hear about it. You have to ask yourself "WHY"? Of course many of us already know that answer... it is because of the greed, lying, stealing, vengeful, hateful, and that list continues of those who could care less about the fellow human, and are all for themselves. Whether one person or a huge corporation, GREED has taken this world OVER. From the Middle East, to the USA GREED is ruling us! If you don't believe it, read, really READ or listen to the news. I can guarantee your conclusion will be much like mine... people (not all we still have some good ones left) but as a whole... as a society in all do not give a damned about their neighbor. Hell they do not care about their own relatives! Until we get out of this "me", all for "me" kind of mentality, nothing is going to change. All we shall see is the destruction of everything that has been built up over the past couple of hundred years. Technology cannot save us, the moon and stars cannot save us, having big homes, luxury cars, and lots of money in the bank shall not save us, fighting war against others will not fix us... ONLY WE, as human beings can FIX what is wrong. Until the "mental" part of humanization changes, NOTHING will get resolved. Yes, I guess that is my wrath for today... that is not what I came to say, but it is what came forth as I typed. so I shall allow it to remain.... Have a good weekend... Rhia


After reading a post from a friend that posted on FB, this is my new post for Saturday morning in regard to hers...

Thank you so much Carole! I appreciate your candid take on what the heck is going on with the nation and the world. It is frightening when you fear even taking a look at the headlines of the paper, or opening the internet front page of your favorite online place to read the news. Gosh, speaking of, Wow, what a blow to the East Coast again!!! To believe that the iconic Seaside Park there in NJ took another hit, this time with fire. I was just staring in disbelief when we started to watch the news yesterday evening. Those people have been through so much! On the other hand you look at Colorado, Boulder and so many towns around it, and their they are, have 70 plus people missing with flood waters that appear to look like raging rivers, where only a trickle was flowing just a couple of days ago. I have just been really concerned for one word to use, over "Mother Nature" and her "wrath".... from the wildfires that are burning up what seems to be half the West, and portions of the Rockies and Mountain Time states, to the severe droughts like this one in  TX, that has almost the entire state in an emergent place. We are literally burning up everything around. In my small town, where trees that are over 100 years old stand, they are almost bare of leaves. I look at my beautiful crepe myrtles, that are usually in a wondrous bloom of hot pink, and they barely bloomed this year. In fact they were so barren of leaves, we got to see more birds nests and baby birds than ever this Summer. But the sad part is, because the trees have such thinning of their leaves, that it is so easy to spot the nests. That is frightening. We have already lost a HUGE pecan tree on our back "40" as we call our big lot behind our house. It was probably 50 years old or older, and half of it was dead at the beginning of Spring. Now the entire tree looks like a dry huge mass of sticks. It has just lost every green piece that was on it. Then our Hackberry trees that everyone plant's here because they can withstand these conditions and they grow so quickly, all of a sudden look "diseased". They already are not the prettiest trees because they have a "knot" that forms on their leaves, that makes them look funny, but now, every one even in our neighbor's yards appear like they are so sick they also might just die. I thought they were covered in web worms, but when I looked closer, I think it is just disease from the drought. I fear spraying them due to the terrible condition they are in for fear they may not withstand any type of poison on them like that. It just breaks my heart to drive through town, and see how many iconic trees we have lost, or are going to lose if we do not get rain quickly. That does not include all of the flowers, shrubs, bushes, that everyone has been taking care of and had them looking so good. Things are are the most hardy for TX, that should withstand anything are withering away in the dry, rainless heat. That in itself is scary enough. Then the state of everything else around the globe from more hurricanes, tornado's, huge ice storms, more and more places with either drought conditions of more flooding, or fires. It seems every where you turn there is some type of disaster happening. I just even despise getting started on the state of our nation and the world. I never remember being this concerned about just what state our country is in morally, mentally, emotionally, financially... it is not just the fact that we are a nation that used to be the leader, and now we are "broke"... but the moral and mental dilemma that so many are in. More and More people are turning into depressed individuals that are desperate for jobs, for money to take care of their families, for educating our kids, for getting out of the wars and staying at peace for a change... none of us want war... I feel everyone would greatly settle for peace for a change. Yet, our government continues to put us in a place of war everywhere we turn. I do realize the hatred we have seen abroad, with the killing of many, many innocent lives should NOT be tolerated. Yet, we can't even get our own nation in order, why and how do we expect to get another country "fixed" when we ourselves are broke, still at war elsewhere, and have enough violence we need to end here first. I do agree that whomever is using chemical weapons on anyone needs to be stopped and punished in some way, and we should never allow them to "get by" with such horrendous actions. Yet, we are allowing some of almost the same kinds of behavior here. MORE guns??? Hell we need to "disarm" America first! I can't believe in towns where mass murders with guns have happened that they want "more guns"... schools do not need more guns.... more is NOT the answer... taking up the weapons that only belong in a war zone, the battlefield, or possibly some in the police hands and getting them out of the hands of citizens is the first thing that shall help to stop these insidious crimes against humans. Allowing hundreds of bullets of almost totally automatic weapons like used in war being on our streets is certainly never a good spot to be in. If we had NONE of those as some countries have done, ban all of them. We would not have the issue of them falling into the wrong hands of killers, and those that mentally are insane. Why we cannot find a way to agree on that one is beside me...

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia and more information from research...

http://simmaronresearch.com/2013/09/foremost-virus-hunter-finds-biomarkers-few-viruses-chronic-fatigue-syndrome/


I thought it was odd, I had always read that the Epstein Barr virus was one of the huge markers of this illness. Yes, you are correct though. They are just now touching the very tip of the iceberg as to the cause of these illnesses. I still think that FM and CFS, run hand in hand with autoimmune illnesses such as Lupus, RA, and so forth. They have so many similar things as one another, and it just seems they are too close not to all be inter related to "the autoimmune system" and its response to what happens when it is compromised in one way or the other. When we have "too much" of our immune system fighting our bodies, that is not a good thing. Then our own bodies are fighting against themselves, which is was Lupus, RA, and so forth are doing. Then you take other AI illnesses such as diabetes 1 and many others and either the AI system is not making enough of something, or not making it at all, or the body for some reason is unable to process what it needs to so the body can respond properly. I feel in the near future we are going to make headway in the fact that many of our illnesses have to do with the AI system, and the way our bodies react to what is happening. Even cancer has some unique properties much like many of the AI diseases. Either it grows out of itself and becomes over powering of the body, or the body shuts down and does not make a certain thing we need thus the AI system again is involved. It is like the response of "inflammation". They are seeing an inflammatory response out of so many illnesses. That response is one of the keys to diagnosing just about every illness out there that is chronic in nature. Inflammation has a huge involvement in CFS, FM, ME, Lupus, RA, osteoarthritis, look at allergic responses, you have a sudden inflammatory process that causes all of the problems from an allergic reaction. Research is getting better, and showing more progress in all of these chronic illnesses, yet we still need so much more. If we are ever going to finally get the "final" blow in and stop them from harming us, we have to have those researchers, the people that go in and volunteer, the companies making the medications to make clinical trials with, our scientists and doctors out there using their own genius minds to begin to uncover all that happens when these illnesses take over, and I feel headstrong that we will finally have the answers, and maybe not a cure soon, but at least a way to stop these before they become so horribly chronic and do so much damage. The main issue is DIAGNOSING THEM EARLY!! This bull about it taking YEARS AND YEARS to finally know what is wrong is just BULL!!! We have to get someone to find a way to absolutely know what you have, and find out very quickly so treatment can begin early in life. NOT after these have just taken over your life. Then the medical system takes a stab in the dark, throws tests and medications at you, and sees if something "sticks"... well that is NOT going to get us well! We need more specific tests, and ways to get through and know for sure very, very quickly, such as we do with many cancers, so we can treat immediately... I so wished I was a bit younger, and had stayed away from marriage for awhile and went on to be a nurse, and possibly onto being a research doctor. If I had only known of course what I do today, I would definitely be someone in this field of medicine, getting into the heart of these chronic illnesses and how to diagnose, treat, and hopefully cure them... some day maybe my own great grand kids maybe involved... we never know...

In Honor, and Giving Those Lost All of the Glory... 9/11

As I pause for a brief moment, after another day of "junk" in life, I think about the men, women and children we lost on 9/11/11. Honestly, I feel there are no words that can truly describe that horrendous act upon our people, and it has effected each and every one of us, and for the rest of our lives, we shall think back to that fateful day. I find myself often looking over my shoulder, or turning my head to look around my surroundings when it is in a huge venue. However it "hit" you, I am sure you are very much the same. Of course the "danger" of that day has never ending. Those lives were taken for no good reason, on a "regular" day for the nation, people going to work, kids to school, and doing all of the things we expect to do on a sunny normal day in September. Yet, today, those thousands are not here to look at the leaves turning. They are not here to see the Fall colors that shall be here soon, or the excitement of football season and watching the games to cheer their teams on. They are not here to go to music or dance lessons, or practice their cheers for cheer leading. They will never again study for a chemistry test, or fill out applications for college. Each and every one of those special lives shall not get to allow "freedom to ring" in their own hearts again. We put a beautiful place there to remember them by, and it is incredible. We can put flowers out by there names, and give our honor, and those lost the glory, as the fire fighters and police men, charged in knowing they may never return, along with the every day men and women that stayed to help, rather than run from the dirty breath sucking rolls of all kinds of stuff in the air... So, WE united as ONE NATION, need to take a very GOOD LOOK back at that fateful day. We need to stop our BICKERING (meaning our government) and start taking CARE OF EACH OTHER AS A WHOLE!!! It should have been a very big lesson, one that cost more than money could ever buy... that it is time to get our stuff together, and unite our nation, and then ONLY can we unite the world!!!!